i have been born as the eldest.
i was destined to pass the PTS and mingles among the people who is one year older than i am.
when i was in year 5, i was introduced to wonderful friends.
when i was in high school, i met with wonderful and also some gross one.
when i was in the university, i met the beautiful friends.
beautiful doesn't mean that we don't feel sad or angry. but most of the time, their attendance makes me learn better about my life.
so, i was saying, i'm used to mingling around people older than me.
along the path i learnt one most important thing -- which i only understand when i'm in my final semester:
"no matter how old/young/clever/stupid u r, respecting ur leader is the most important. no matter how bad/good the leader is, as a team we should always support each other."
this applies to any team work/family/friends networking.
sometimes people can get angry just because of a word. the word which is not respecting their dignity or in other words -- their dignity of age.
as example, your mom would not like to listen when you teach/correct them with harsh words because they thought that you are trying to be clever. why they thought so? yep, because they thought they had live longer, they should know more or at least they should received non-harsh words to correct them.
take note pls, the older you get, the sensitive you will be. do not argue about this fact. this is true even though i didn't have statistics to prove this.
this happens to everyone but everyone must understand, this can be solve.
all to do is that ... inhale, exhale, smile.. think of the aftermath from this behavior. then you will be able to forgive and start a new life.
much to say, enjoy your life the way you are. don't do misery to your life. one day, when you end up on a hospital bed you would want someone beautiful come visit and cheer you up. and not regretting about this later.
last but not least, whenever you feel angry - go do something else. when u standing at that time, try sitting. if u sitting, try lying. if ur lying, try take ablution (wudhu'). that last solution surely works because it means that you decided not to follow the devil's path but you have decided to let Allah help you to settle the feelings. With Allah's bless, your problem will be solved much easier.
easy right? so post-anger? when you suddenly feel guilty after being angry? what should you do?
pray pray pray to Him so that you have the strength to ask for forgiveness and hope the person that you anger at, are understanding and able to forgive you. this is for the case where you are the person who is having the most difficulty to talk/ask for forgiveness. and most of us will have this kind of situation, especially after a fight. and then, go ask for that forgiveness. May Allah bless you :)
always be strong and never lose hope. never lose friends/family. :)
AH BENG
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